There Is A Pleasure In The Pathless Woods

There is a pleasure in the pathless woods,
There is a rapture on the lonely shore,
There is society, where none intrudes,
By the deep sea, and music in its roar:
I love not man the less, but Nature more,
From these our interviews, in which I steal
From all I may be, or have been before,
To mingle with the Universe, and feel
What I can ne’er express, yet cannot all conceal.

These first few lines of Lord Byron’s poem appeared on screen at the beginning of the movie, Into the Wild, the film is based on a true story about a young man, Christopher McCandless, who died in the wilds of Alaska while seeking adventure, searching for himself, and probing for true meaning in and of his existence.

The 90/10 Principle of Life...

Author: Stephen Covey


What is this Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
…90% of life is decided by how you react…

What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in the traffic.
We have NO control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.

You determine the other 90%.
How?... By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction.
Do not let people fool you.
YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family.Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
Onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minute late,

You realize you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge
in your relationship with your wife and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say:
“It’s okay, honey, you just need to be More careful next time.”
Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt.
You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through
the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.

Both started the same.Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you reacted.
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.

The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you,do not be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You do not have to let the negative comments
affect you.

React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, or getting stressed out.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off),
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?

It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90/10 Principle.
Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90/10 Principle is incredible.

Very few know and apply this Principle.
The result?
You will see it by yourself!
Millions of people are suffering
from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and headaches.
We all must understand and apply the
90/10 Principle.
It can change your life!
…Enjoy it...
It only takes willpower to give ourselves
permission to make the experience.
Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a Boomerang.
It will come back to us...
If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first...
Maybe we will end with our hands empty,
but our heart will be filled with love...
And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts …


The End

Are we Immune to thought pollution?

Are we better salesmen than our previous generations?? I'll affirm... but at same time I think we are more effective and efficient pollutants don't take offence I have a point to 'sell' ;)

I believe we have developed a perfect salesman in ourselves, when it comes to selling we leave no space for the target but to buy our ideas and plans, and on the consumer end mostly are the people of older generation i.e. our parents. We collect facts from under every cornerstone to argue and we also customized facts to the needs somewhat... well only ‘somewhat’ really? I think We are even enough smart to build the facts in their absence..

Selling has improved so much in us and things that surround us that passe is when we needed product to sell...like in our daily sops actors don’t act it’s the camera that has taken over that role…on News channels every news is a breaking news and they don’t have time to show just ‘News’ throughout 24 hours anymore…unfortunately they do get TRP's for all the Breaking News.

We sell, preach and give so much that we are loosing focus from product, self learning and introspection...

In midst of this tremendous vocal pollution that we give n take, the need is to have enough tough and rational mind that could differentiate black and white and gray under any circumstance else we are bound to get affected of surrounding impurities/pollution of baseless thoughts and words…

Now how can that be done??
Technically speaking each ‘normal’ person has two parts of mind divided between conscious and subconscious. Subconscious works like a hard disk storing oodles of data and also build your attitude and character.

So who gives the data?? It’s the conscious mind who validates the data first and saves it on hard disk…but it’s a cycle to approve the data conscious mind takes suggestions from subconscious mind in reverse….
So if u have invalid data stored on ur hard disk you are more prone to storing invalid data further for ur conscious mind relies on wht subconscious mind suggests!!

As said by Dr. Joseph Murphy, a popular neurosurgeon (‘Power of Subconscious mind’)

So to stay rational we need to listen to rational data always which is practically not possible but atleast have enough checks/validation done before we store data on hard disk…..keep running antivirus programs to clean existing data the tool nature gave us for this is ‘Introspection’…. install firewalls to let invalid information surpass ears…. don’t let that in for you know…it may corrupt the system!



Always speak validated facts for if you try to speak wht you yourself don’t believe in
You may be confusing subconscious mind with contradictory data! and parallely reinforcing invalid thoughts. End result will be a confused YOU! So pretension is always risky……(unless you r a strong player of the game and enough headstrong to handle duality. Our politicians are perhaps such examples)

So the Questions arises - can we trick with our subconscious mind and make it believe whatever we want to?? The answer is Yes!....as suggested by Dr. Murphy this can be achieved by the power of repeated suggesting to your subconscious mind, keep saying to your self with conviction what you want to embed in yourself sentences like ‘My health is perfect, it will remain perfect’, ‘I am confident ‘, “I speak well’, ‘I sing well’ or literally anything you want to believe in, and this will start showing results as earl as you accept and believe these suggestions. For ‘What you are is What you believe in’…as quoted by…. I don’t know who…


Hope you’ll tell me your opinion!

How unbiased we are....

Maturity is a very commonly used word but i sometimes wonder what is the unit to measure it ... can it be age? as in..is there any age by which we all get 'Mature'...for me its difficult to agree.. So is it the educational or professional background through which we can measure somebody's maturity level....I can't say that either.

Well we often notice that highly successful professionals, politicians, corporates goof up while publicly speaking and pass on immature comments. Latest is the Satyam's bosses' sponsored disaster. For me this terrible disaster is an outcome of somebody's immature decisions only, you may have your own opinion about it though, and I have space for it..


But, one thing for sure that the level of maturity decides quality of your decisions...and quality of your decisions only direct and decides quality of your life..

Following is an old popular picture look at it for 10 seconds.








Two boys looked at it one described it as a Young beautiful lady and other - as an old lady. Both were correct in responses why?? read further to find your answer....



Each one of us tend to think we see things as they are, that we are objective...but this is not the case. we see the world, not as it is, but as we are- or as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perception and beliefs/paradigms. when other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with them. But as the demonstration shows, sincere clearheaded people see things differently, each looking thru the unique lens of experience.

This does not mean that there are no facts. In the demonstration two individuals who initially had been influenced by different conditioning pictures look at the third picture together. They are now both looking at the same identical facts. But each person's interpretation of these facts represents prior experiences, and the facts have no meaning whatsoever apart from the interpretation.

The more aware we are of our basic paradigms or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against the reality, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view.

Do leave your valuable opinions...m waiting :)


courtesy : 7 habits.