Whether to be Die heart fan of someone??

Hi guys below is an interesting argument between me and my friend Dharmveer on whether to like some one die heart or not, pls leave your precious comments too ...here goes...

[12:00:53] Dharamveer Saxena: bhai I m not talking that he is efficient or not .. ya I m better ... I m just telling you that no one should be so die heart fan of any one

[12:00:51] Nitin Sharma: yar it's a matter of personal choice

[12:01:03] Nitin Sharma: i think u must be die heart fan of many pple

[12:01:08] Nitin Sharma: seeing their good things

[12:01:19] Nitin Sharma: of u start seeing negative things more

[12:01:27] Nitin Sharma: we cant ever be fan of anyone

[12:01:39] Nitin Sharma: i am looking for some serius mentor in my life

[12:01:59] Nitin Sharma: i want to be die heart fan of some very efficient personality

[12:02:04] Nitin Sharma: the way he is

[12:02:19] Nitin Sharma: but not able to find my idol as yet

[12:02:24] Nitin Sharma: i hope koi jaldi mile

[12:02:46] Nitin Sharma: that is y i created account on sillicon india

[12:02:52] Nitin Sharma: there u can make ur mentors

[12:03:06] Nitin Sharma: very highly placed IT professionals

[12:03:19] Nitin Sharma: they willingly agree to be ur mentor

[12:03:36] Nitin Sharma: but so far havn got enuf time to explore that, will do soon

[12:03:47] Dharamveer Saxena: yr if you like any quality in otherwhich attract you .. then try to build that thing in u.. but Y to become a die heart fan

[12:04:10] Dharamveer Saxena: pata nahin.. but I can't

[12:04:20] Nitin Sharma: look if i like amitabh it doesnt mean i have to act

[12:04:20] Dharamveer Saxena: be a die heart fan of anyone

[12:04:36] Nitin Sharma: this thing comes naturally

[12:04:42] Nitin Sharma: u dont become fan out of choice

[12:04:52] Nitin Sharma: its deep subcounscious feeling

[12:04:56] Nitin Sharma: u knw respect

[12:05:01] Nitin Sharma: it comes from inside

[12:05:12] Nitin Sharma: like m not fan of "VS"

[12:05:23] Dharamveer Saxena: till fan is ok.. I m fan of amitabh.. but I am not a die heart fan of him who always try to follow him..

[12:05:27] Nitin Sharma: but some of his things have created lot of respect for him in me

[12:05:29] Dharamveer Saxena: in each things

[12:06:10] Nitin Sharma: man big things can be achieved only with extreme feelings

[12:06:18] Nitin Sharma: mediocre things dont help these days

[12:06:30] Nitin Sharma: do everythng anythng with die heart feeling

[12:06:39] Nitin Sharma: thats somethng not everyone can do

[12:06:45] Dharamveer Saxena: extreme feelings wrt to achiveing that big thing.. not by following others path

[12:06:47] Nitin Sharma: fan can be anyone

[12:07:02] Dharamveer Saxena: who achived that big thing

[12:07:13] Nitin Sharma: ya that is also true that dont get carried awaya stay unbiased and mature

[12:07:50] Nitin Sharma: but at our age we probably dont have enuf expereience to be that mature. we cannt see all the paths

[12:08:05] Nitin Sharma: so best way is to follow someone who's alrdy doing well and alrdy there

[12:08:10] Nitin Sharma: u get me?

[12:09:00] Dharamveer Saxena: galat

[12:09:02] Dharamveer Saxena: galt

[12:09:04] Dharamveer Saxena: galat

[12:09:13] Dharamveer Saxena: I will explain u in the break...

[12:09:21] Dharamveer Saxena: don't type

[12:09:22] Dharamveer Saxena: wait

[12:10:21] Dharamveer Saxena: In simple words: no one should be a die heart fan or a total follower of other...

[12:10:51] Nitin Sharma: My view is this only is the way forward

[12:11:12] Nitin Sharma: In such fast pace lives you dont have time to explore everythng urselves

[12:11:32] Nitin Sharma: test the one who u r becoming fan of..take time to judge

[12:11:51] Nitin Sharma: then committ and follow....with ofcourse OPen eyes

[12:12:04] Dharamveer Saxena: yes.. so just learn the things that other had learnt from there experience but ismain die heart fan ki baat kahana se aa gayi

[12:12:32] Nitin Sharma: ok lets now take ur definition of "Die heart fan"

[12:12:54] Nitin Sharma: this topic is getting interesting m gonna post this on my blog

[12:13:10] Nitin Sharma: but lets ensure we end up with conclusion

[12:13:17] Dharamveer Saxena: sure

[12:16:12] Nitin Sharma: Ok for me die heart fan means ... i close look at someones tasks, startegies and planning and ofcourse attitude

[12:16:37] Nitin Sharma: and I try to inculacate many habits of him in me coz i blv wht he does is right

[12:16:40] Dharamveer Saxena: I think Die heart Fan are those who always wants to be like the one (who attracted him) .. one who follows blindly on the path of his mentor.. etc etc

[12:17:31] Dharamveer Saxena: Ok.. so you should just try to build all those gud quality in you...

[12:17:42] Nitin Sharma: yes exactly...but i blv we guys are smart enuf not to follow anyone religiously as we dont follow religion itself these days

[12:17:43] Dharamveer Saxena: but Y to be a DHF

[12:18:24] Nitin Sharma: for the simple reason that if you keep judging some one all the time...you have no time left to follow his good side

[12:19:01] Nitin Sharma: and I think to move forward in life if u get ready made chart and plan little cost of wrong deeds is quite ok

[12:19:33] Dharamveer Saxena: yr... if some one is soft spoken.. and if its attract you then try to be like him and try to build that thing in you...

[12:20:02] Nitin Sharma: But the best part is if you are capable and mature enuf to draw best life plan on your own nuthng can compete

[12:20:04] Dharamveer Saxena: if a person is hard worker and if it attract you then try to grasp that thing.. and move forward

[12:23:31] Nitin Sharma: which is right..thats exactly wht i mean.

Unhappy people convince you to stay unhappy

An extract by Swami Sukhabodhananda :


One can give only from what one has. When you understand this, you will be kind. You cannot expect a scorpion to kiss you. People around, with their hurt bodies, create pain for others. Their minds are so noisy that they create noise. Quite often, we hold on to the pain for a week, a month and create a hurt body in us. We cannot shake it loose from our memory. The hurt body starts eating our joy. It starts reliving the experience of abuse and creates a mountain out of a molehill. We have a choice to nurture abuse within us, reliving those moments or we can simply shake it off and move on.
Why do we suffer pain by recreating it moment to moment?
Thought creates energy. If thought is negative, then energy is negative and that creates pain. A hurt body looks at the world through pain. A hurt body will try its best to sustain pain. It is a matter of survival. So, it loves to attract pain and sustain pain. It will use logic to protect it. Look at unhappy people. They will convince you to be miserable.
All that you can do is to create a bliss body in you. There are five layers in you: the physical body, the pranic body, the breath body, the mental body, the intellectual body and the bliss body.
All these layers in us have energies. It is in potential form. Just as there is latent fire in wood and by rubbing the wood it is invoked. In the same way you have to awaken the physical body through exercise, yoga, dance and a balanced diet. Keep the body alive and enthusiastic. You will then kindle a happy energy through the body.
The pranic or breath body has to be awakened. Breathe deeply by doing pranayama and find a different kind of joy surfacing in you. Shallow breathing creates lower energy field while deep breathing enhances one’s aliveness. The mental body can be awakened if you keep your mind calm. A calm mind has a different joy; a noisy mind is an avenue for energy leakage. When your intellect is open and receptive, yet another dimension of blissful energy arises. One who is open and receptive is always learning. That’s why children learn very fast. In deep sleep, the bliss body opens up naturally. In the waking state, if one is committed to be happy and learns to look at life as a celebration, the bliss centre will be awakened.
Could opening these five bodies help improve a marital relationship?
If we are depleted, there is leakage of energy. We then try to draw energy from our partner. Each one starts sapping the other’s energy and we become dependent on the other. Both feel miserable. Then you become possessive. When there is resistance to restriction of freedom, the partner feels rejected and dejected. You wait to settle scores at the opportune time. There is a war of roses.
However, if you have tapped all the five layers within you, you will overflow with joy. You will not sap the energy of the other as you are overflowing. You will not be dependent on the other but you can learn to be interdependent, the there is a sense of belonging. The relationship will reach new heights when you open your body, prana, mind, intellect and bliss centres.

There Is A Pleasure In The Pathless Woods

There is a pleasure in the pathless woods,
There is a rapture on the lonely shore,
There is society, where none intrudes,
By the deep sea, and music in its roar:
I love not man the less, but Nature more,
From these our interviews, in which I steal
From all I may be, or have been before,
To mingle with the Universe, and feel
What I can ne’er express, yet cannot all conceal.

These first few lines of Lord Byron’s poem appeared on screen at the beginning of the movie, Into the Wild, the film is based on a true story about a young man, Christopher McCandless, who died in the wilds of Alaska while seeking adventure, searching for himself, and probing for true meaning in and of his existence.

The 90/10 Principle of Life...

Author: Stephen Covey


What is this Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
…90% of life is decided by how you react…

What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in the traffic.
We have NO control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.

You determine the other 90%.
How?... By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction.
Do not let people fool you.
YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family.Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
Onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minute late,

You realize you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge
in your relationship with your wife and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say:
“It’s okay, honey, you just need to be More careful next time.”
Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt.
You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through
the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.

Both started the same.Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you reacted.
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.

The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you,do not be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You do not have to let the negative comments
affect you.

React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, or getting stressed out.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off),
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?

It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90/10 Principle.
Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90/10 Principle is incredible.

Very few know and apply this Principle.
The result?
You will see it by yourself!
Millions of people are suffering
from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and headaches.
We all must understand and apply the
90/10 Principle.
It can change your life!
…Enjoy it...
It only takes willpower to give ourselves
permission to make the experience.
Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a Boomerang.
It will come back to us...
If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first...
Maybe we will end with our hands empty,
but our heart will be filled with love...
And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts …


The End

Are we Immune to thought pollution?

Are we better salesmen than our previous generations?? I'll affirm... but at same time I think we are more effective and efficient pollutants don't take offence I have a point to 'sell' ;)

I believe we have developed a perfect salesman in ourselves, when it comes to selling we leave no space for the target but to buy our ideas and plans, and on the consumer end mostly are the people of older generation i.e. our parents. We collect facts from under every cornerstone to argue and we also customized facts to the needs somewhat... well only ‘somewhat’ really? I think We are even enough smart to build the facts in their absence..

Selling has improved so much in us and things that surround us that passe is when we needed product to sell...like in our daily sops actors don’t act it’s the camera that has taken over that role…on News channels every news is a breaking news and they don’t have time to show just ‘News’ throughout 24 hours anymore…unfortunately they do get TRP's for all the Breaking News.

We sell, preach and give so much that we are loosing focus from product, self learning and introspection...

In midst of this tremendous vocal pollution that we give n take, the need is to have enough tough and rational mind that could differentiate black and white and gray under any circumstance else we are bound to get affected of surrounding impurities/pollution of baseless thoughts and words…

Now how can that be done??
Technically speaking each ‘normal’ person has two parts of mind divided between conscious and subconscious. Subconscious works like a hard disk storing oodles of data and also build your attitude and character.

So who gives the data?? It’s the conscious mind who validates the data first and saves it on hard disk…but it’s a cycle to approve the data conscious mind takes suggestions from subconscious mind in reverse….
So if u have invalid data stored on ur hard disk you are more prone to storing invalid data further for ur conscious mind relies on wht subconscious mind suggests!!

As said by Dr. Joseph Murphy, a popular neurosurgeon (‘Power of Subconscious mind’)

So to stay rational we need to listen to rational data always which is practically not possible but atleast have enough checks/validation done before we store data on hard disk…..keep running antivirus programs to clean existing data the tool nature gave us for this is ‘Introspection’…. install firewalls to let invalid information surpass ears…. don’t let that in for you know…it may corrupt the system!



Always speak validated facts for if you try to speak wht you yourself don’t believe in
You may be confusing subconscious mind with contradictory data! and parallely reinforcing invalid thoughts. End result will be a confused YOU! So pretension is always risky……(unless you r a strong player of the game and enough headstrong to handle duality. Our politicians are perhaps such examples)

So the Questions arises - can we trick with our subconscious mind and make it believe whatever we want to?? The answer is Yes!....as suggested by Dr. Murphy this can be achieved by the power of repeated suggesting to your subconscious mind, keep saying to your self with conviction what you want to embed in yourself sentences like ‘My health is perfect, it will remain perfect’, ‘I am confident ‘, “I speak well’, ‘I sing well’ or literally anything you want to believe in, and this will start showing results as earl as you accept and believe these suggestions. For ‘What you are is What you believe in’…as quoted by…. I don’t know who…


Hope you’ll tell me your opinion!

How unbiased we are....

Maturity is a very commonly used word but i sometimes wonder what is the unit to measure it ... can it be age? as in..is there any age by which we all get 'Mature'...for me its difficult to agree.. So is it the educational or professional background through which we can measure somebody's maturity level....I can't say that either.

Well we often notice that highly successful professionals, politicians, corporates goof up while publicly speaking and pass on immature comments. Latest is the Satyam's bosses' sponsored disaster. For me this terrible disaster is an outcome of somebody's immature decisions only, you may have your own opinion about it though, and I have space for it..


But, one thing for sure that the level of maturity decides quality of your decisions...and quality of your decisions only direct and decides quality of your life..

Following is an old popular picture look at it for 10 seconds.








Two boys looked at it one described it as a Young beautiful lady and other - as an old lady. Both were correct in responses why?? read further to find your answer....



Each one of us tend to think we see things as they are, that we are objective...but this is not the case. we see the world, not as it is, but as we are- or as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perception and beliefs/paradigms. when other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with them. But as the demonstration shows, sincere clearheaded people see things differently, each looking thru the unique lens of experience.

This does not mean that there are no facts. In the demonstration two individuals who initially had been influenced by different conditioning pictures look at the third picture together. They are now both looking at the same identical facts. But each person's interpretation of these facts represents prior experiences, and the facts have no meaning whatsoever apart from the interpretation.

The more aware we are of our basic paradigms or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against the reality, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view.

Do leave your valuable opinions...m waiting :)


courtesy : 7 habits.