Unhappy people convince you to stay unhappy

An extract by Swami Sukhabodhananda :


One can give only from what one has. When you understand this, you will be kind. You cannot expect a scorpion to kiss you. People around, with their hurt bodies, create pain for others. Their minds are so noisy that they create noise. Quite often, we hold on to the pain for a week, a month and create a hurt body in us. We cannot shake it loose from our memory. The hurt body starts eating our joy. It starts reliving the experience of abuse and creates a mountain out of a molehill. We have a choice to nurture abuse within us, reliving those moments or we can simply shake it off and move on.
Why do we suffer pain by recreating it moment to moment?
Thought creates energy. If thought is negative, then energy is negative and that creates pain. A hurt body looks at the world through pain. A hurt body will try its best to sustain pain. It is a matter of survival. So, it loves to attract pain and sustain pain. It will use logic to protect it. Look at unhappy people. They will convince you to be miserable.
All that you can do is to create a bliss body in you. There are five layers in you: the physical body, the pranic body, the breath body, the mental body, the intellectual body and the bliss body.
All these layers in us have energies. It is in potential form. Just as there is latent fire in wood and by rubbing the wood it is invoked. In the same way you have to awaken the physical body through exercise, yoga, dance and a balanced diet. Keep the body alive and enthusiastic. You will then kindle a happy energy through the body.
The pranic or breath body has to be awakened. Breathe deeply by doing pranayama and find a different kind of joy surfacing in you. Shallow breathing creates lower energy field while deep breathing enhances one’s aliveness. The mental body can be awakened if you keep your mind calm. A calm mind has a different joy; a noisy mind is an avenue for energy leakage. When your intellect is open and receptive, yet another dimension of blissful energy arises. One who is open and receptive is always learning. That’s why children learn very fast. In deep sleep, the bliss body opens up naturally. In the waking state, if one is committed to be happy and learns to look at life as a celebration, the bliss centre will be awakened.
Could opening these five bodies help improve a marital relationship?
If we are depleted, there is leakage of energy. We then try to draw energy from our partner. Each one starts sapping the other’s energy and we become dependent on the other. Both feel miserable. Then you become possessive. When there is resistance to restriction of freedom, the partner feels rejected and dejected. You wait to settle scores at the opportune time. There is a war of roses.
However, if you have tapped all the five layers within you, you will overflow with joy. You will not sap the energy of the other as you are overflowing. You will not be dependent on the other but you can learn to be interdependent, the there is a sense of belonging. The relationship will reach new heights when you open your body, prana, mind, intellect and bliss centres.